- My Story: Let’s face it. We all have stage fright. Even I do. Are you the type of person that hates to speak or read in front of people. You’ll have to ask yourself why do you hate speaking or reading in public?
When I was in high school I was scared to read in front of the class because I was bullied and made fun of. I knew that if I got up and stood in front of the class and read all the students would laugh at me or whisper to one another. And I hated that. I wanted out of school and when the day came that I graduated I was so happy but sad to not see my friends anymore.
After high school as I got older, I was still shy and scared to be in crowds. Being in big crowds made me really nervous to where I would call my mom and say come and get me now. I wanna come home.
Then I joined a writers group called The Marion Country Writer’s Group and being in that group has helped me with the public reading. When I first started I was so nervous that I would stutter and mess up and that would make me even more nervous and scared. I would keep my head down and not even look at them because I was afraid to see their faces after I had read. I wouldn’t listen to what they would say. I would be very overprotected with my work because back then I thought I knew it all when I really didn’t.
But as the years went on I wasn’t so scared or nervous anymore. I was getting to know these people and I realized later in the years they’re not trying to make me feel bad or to upset me they’re just trying to help me so I can become a better writer.
And now that I’m 29 and living on my own with my two cats Spook and Batman I’m not the same girl anymore. I’m not shy or quiet. I could be walking down the sidewalk and I would say hi to a complete stranger that I don’t even know. Years ago I wouldn’t even think to do something like that. I would have kept my head down and not even try to smile.
Since I’ve become a self-published author I’ve had more confidence in myself then I have ever before. I try harder. I believe in myself a lot more and I let the negativity go out the window. I don’t listen to the haters or let people boss me around.
- How to deal with Speaking in public: I never have done a speech in front of people before, but it’s like reading a chapter from a book. Or talking about things on your list. If I had to speak in front of people I would just stand in my living room and talk to my cats and try to think how to do the speech.
When you overthink things you overwhelm yourself and you start to panic and you feel like you’re having a heart attack. Don’t overthink while speaking or reading in public. That’s the worst thing you can do. I still do it and that’s when the anxiety kicks in. And I hate it. I keep telling myself to stop it, I know better. And I do know better. Just try to not think about what you have to say in front of people. That’s why you type it all up so it will guide you.
- How to deal with Reading in Public: If you have the fear of reading in front of people, you are not the only one. I still get scared if I read in front of people. Only because I think my work is crap or I didn’t edit or revise enough. That’s the only time I get nervous or scared.
The best way to not get scared to read in front of people is to not look at them. Me personally I think that’s why people get scared to read in front of a crowd because they keeping looking up and the people are looking back at them. You don’t have to look at them if it scares you. Just keep your eyes on the paper and just read as if they are not even there. If you want to look up and then back down at your paper that’s fine too. Don’t think about how many people are there or what if this goes wrong, what if they get up and leave. It doesn’t matter what people think or what they do. If people get up and leave, who cares, it’s their loss. They missed out on a great read. Don’t focus on that. Just have a good time and show them that you can do anything if you put your mind to it.